enthusiasm redefined

time and again I've been faced with bitter reality ~ trying to help others or thinking that I'm helping others, without knowing:
1. whether they are in a position to be helped
2. whether they want to be helped
3. whether they are capable of receiving your advice/help

my enthusiasm is (read foolishness is) ~ not answering the above questions and jumping in the middle to fix things

"let others ask for help and then jump to help them, if you can" ~ is the lesson learnt